Divorce Tips for Men
By Henry F. Lewis on December 30, 2020
People don’t go into a marriage anticipating that it will end in divorce. However, relationships change over time, and sometimes the best way for a person to preserve their happiness and well-being is by filing for divorce. Divorce can be a stressful process, because it takes an emotional and financial toll.
Being prepared for a divorce is the best way to make the process go smoothly so that things are easier for all involved. Here the divorce lawyers from Gardner & Lewis, LLP offer some divorce tips for men. This advice will help those in the Oakland, CA, area going through a divorce, with a focus on how to keep your finances and psychological well-being intact.
Hire An Experienced Divorce Lawyer
Many people go into a divorce thinking that everything will stay amicable between themselves and their spouse, and that they will be able to settle matters without any professional legal services. While it is possible to have an amicable divorce, going through the process without an attorney is not advisable.
Each spouse should have their own divorce lawyer to represent them, even if the couple plans to settle things through mediation as opposed to a trial. An experienced divorce lawyer looks out for your best interest and can also act as an intermediary when negotiating the division of assets and child custody arrangements.
Although people may worry that a divorce lawyer will make things more contentious, the opposite is usually true. Divorce lawyers can minimize stress and tension and facilitate divorce proceedings so they end faster. It is a good idea for men to meet with a few different divorce lawyers before hiring one, so they feel confident they have chosen someone they can trust.
Think Twice Before Moving Out of the House
Many men choose to move out of their house while they are going through divorce proceedings. In some cases, relocating may be the best option. However, forfeiting the house can also make it more difficult to spend time with children while custody arrangements are settled. Moving out also gives less control over how assets within the home are managed.
The right decision regarding whether to move out is really dependent on each person’s unique circumstances. Men should think carefully, and discuss the matter with our divorce lawyers here in Oakland before making a move.
Prioritize What’s Important
It is nearly impossible for a person to get everything they want in a divorce. As soon as the decision is made to file for divorce, we encourage men to prioritize the issues and/or assets that are most important to them. It is a good idea to make a list of priorities and refer to it often throughout the divorce proceeding.
Be Willing to Negotiate
Along with prioritizing, we advise our clients to be willing to negotiate. While spouses may want many of the same things, there will also likely be things of more emotional importance to one spouse than the other. Men who are willing to negotiate often find that they are able to get more of the things that are important to them.
Remember that divorces tend to be faster and cheaper when spouses can come to agreements about division of assets and child custody matters.
Keep the Kids In Mind
For men with children, the most important advice is to keep the kids in mind. Children should never be dragged into their parent’s conflicts. Any emotional strain felt by the parents is probably magnified even further for the kids. The more amicable that spouses remain, the better it is for their children in the long run.
Contact Our Lawyers
If you’d like more personalized divorce tips, our lawyers would be happy to represent you as your divorce is settled. To schedule a personal consultation with our divorce lawyers, send us a message online, or call our Oakland law firm at (510) 451-4822.
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